A new Year has started!
All ready the first month of 2018 is nearly finished and many people made their own New Years Resolution.
Here are some tips to how to stick to the resolution you’ve made!
Follow these 5 rules to help you with your plans.
1: Know what you want!
This sounds simple, but if you can work towards your end goal knowing what it really is you want, helps you to focus. Here are some questions you can ask yourself; how it will make me feel, what will it look like when I am that person, what will I hear, feel, see when I reach my goal?
2: Have a goal in mind that is for yourself and not some one else, and realistic!
Keep your goal for yourself, and test how it makes you feel when you reach your goal. doing something because of someone else most often doesn’t work very wel and it’s hard to stick to it because deep down it doesn’t feel right for you. Keep your goal realistic.
3: Take action to get it.
People who get the results they want do so by taking action. They may not always have the complete plan, but they can start their journey because they have an end in mind.
4: Be flexible.
If you are on track to your goal, keep doing what you are doing. How ever, if what you are doing isn’t working try something different, be playful and flexible. As long as you always keep the result you want in your mind ,and are flexible in your behaviour, you will achieve your goal.
5: Be aware!
To be flexible you need to be aware of what is keeping you away from reaching your goal, and what bring you closer towards your goal.
Take 5 minutes a day to be still and ask yourself these question;
What are the results I am getting from my actions?
Are they effective?
Is there something I need to change?
This time of year is quite often a time of rushing around, getting everything organized for Christmas.
By doing so, sometimes the joy and fun that this time of year offers, is lost.
So what can you do to make sure you enjoy your time up to Christmas?
1. You could make a list of all the things you need to do, and slowly work through this by taking one or two things every day.
Although this sounds strange but if you keep rushing around from one day to the next you never enjoy the moment, focusing on what you need to do, taking one day at the time helps you to get more done and not being overwhelmed by it all.
2. Ask for help if you need it, as hard as this can be to realize, you don’t have to do it all by yourself.
Very often when we ask for help when needed, you might find that people feel honored and touched by being asked.
Sometimes the mind tells you you can’t do that, remember they are only thoughts and thoughts like are like birds in the sky, they fly in and they fly out.
I came across this saying “a problem well stated is a problem half solved” (Charles Franklin Kettering) Be brave, ask for help.
3. Take some time for yourself to enjoy yourself everyday e.g., sit and rest, have a coffee with your friend, or relax with a book, take a nice hot bath before you go to bed, or go for a walk.
Taking regular time for yourself keeps you more focused and relaxed, which means you can enjoy the journey up to Christmas more.
4. Look after yourself, become your own best friend.
These are just a few pointers I wanted to make and I hope you enjoy them.
Once upon a time there was a little boy who was talented, creative, handsome, and extremely bright. A natural leader. The kind of person everyone would normally have wanted on his or her team or project. But he was also self-centered and had a very bad temper. When he got angry, he usually said, and often did, some very hurtful things. In fact, he seemed to have little regard for those around him. Even friends. So, naturally, he had few. “But,” he told himself, “that just shows how stupid most people are!”
As he grew, his parents became concerned about this personality flaw, and pondered long and hard about what they should do. Finally, the father had an idea. And he struck a bargain with his son. He gave him a bag of nails, and a BIG hammer. “Whenever you lose your temper,” he told the boy, “I want you to really let it out. Just take a nail and drive it into the oak boards of that old fence out back. Hit that nail as hard as you can!”
Of course, those weathered oak boards in that old fence were almost as tough as iron, and the hammer was mighty heavy, so it wasn’t nearly as easy as it first sounded. Nevertheless, by the end of the first day, the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence (That was one angry young man!). Gradually, over a period of weeks, the number dwindled down. Holding his temper proved to be easier than driving nails into the fence! Finally the day came when the boy didn’t lose his temper at all. He felt mighty proud as he told his parents about that accomplishment.
“As a sign of your success,” his father responded, “You get to PULL OUT one nail. In fact, you can do that each day that you don’t lose your temper even once.”
Well, many weeks passed. Finally one day the young boy was able to report proudly that all the nails were gone.
At that point, the father asked his son to walk out back with him and take ones more a good look at the fence. “You have done well, my son,” he said. “But I want you to notice the holes that are left. No matter what happens from now on, this fence will never be the same. Saying or doing hurtful things in anger produces the same kind of result. There will always be a scar. It won’t matter how many times you say you’re sorry, or how many years pass, the scar will still be there. And a verbal wound is as bad as a physical one. People are much more valuable than an old fence. They make us smile. They help us succeed. Some will even become friends who share our joys, and support us through bad times. And, if they trust us, they will also open their hearts to us. That means we need to treat everyone with love and respect. We need to prevent as many of those scars as we can.”
This morning I went for a lovely walk, normally when I am on my own I wear headphones but this time I didn’t. I was just enjoying the trees with their beautiful leaves, the colours of autumn, the branches that seem to be like ‘stag horns’ reaching for the sky, with the wind through my hair and on my face, I felt so blessed. The sun was playing games with the clouds, sometimes very bright and sometimes hiding. Then at one point the sun was shining on my face and suddenly I felt rain drops coming down, how amazing is that, I was walking through a rainbow! As I felt the rain drops I also felt the colours flowing through me, amazing. When you just take some time out to enjoy what is all around you without any other media then just your eyes, ears and feeling and your own thoughts as you walk, you realize that beauty is everywhere.
We all seem to be so busy with all sorts of things and sometimes we forget what we have got.
I heard a story about someone who lost everything and was desperate, he didn’t know what to do!
His day’s were dark and gloomy and dull there was a lot of self pity and only words like”if only”
“I can’t do anything”, “it always the same”, “nothing ever works for me” “what if “? and so on.
Suddenly he saw a pencil with an eraser on it lying on the floor.
That was strange, he never seen that lying there before, where did the pencil come from , why did it show up? The first thought was, what good is a pencil anyway?
A little voice inside him said “use me, write, draw”. I can’t draw, I can’t write, but what if I could do that? So he asked himself “what can I do with this pencil?”
“I could write down what I want or I could draw what I love to see”
I spend most of my time dreaming anyway so why not dream and write about what I love to do, who I love to be, where I love to live?
Suddenly he got exited. He said to himself “I can create any picture I want, I can have fun drawing and writing, and if I don’t like it I can erase it, I have a choice.
From that day on things started to change, opportunities started to arise, he became more aware of what he could do with the tools he had at the time.
His mind started to look for what he could do, where he could go and how he could make things happen.
When he looked back after a year he was excited and busy doing all sorts of new and exiting things. He realized it was all within him as long as he was open to it and appreciated what he was able to do with the tools he got at the time. He was so grateful and life was good, full of opportunities, new things to explore. All he did was asking himself “what can I do now?” How can I make it happen?” “What do I need to do to….?”
When we open our mind to what we want instead of what we don’t want we open the window and let fresh air in.
Start looking at what you have got and you never know change can just happen. Inspiration is every where if you want to see it, hear it and feel it!
Remember you always have a choice!
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A very dear lady who I regard very close to my heart told me her story about her struggle how to cope with her having a stroke. She told me about a song written by Ramses Shaffy (29/08/1933 – 01/12/2009 Dutch singer) that inspired her to carry on. The song: “Sing, fight, cry, pray, laugh, work and admire” they are beautiful words. Music and words are such inspiring tools to help you move forward in your life. When we open ourselves to stop and listen there is always support out there. I thank you for sharing this amazing experience.
Let the music play inside you to enlighten you and inspire you.
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Smile without a reason why, love as if you were a child. These beautiful words come from the theme song “La Bella Evita”. Life is beautiful,
see it, feel it, smell it, touch it, live it!
A great quote from Mother Teresa
Love is a fruit in season at all time,
and within the reach of every hand.
Anyone may gather it and no limit is set.
Everyone can reach this love through meditation,eautiful
spirit of prayer, and sacrifice,
by an intense inner life.